Marriage? Maybe Later

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                    Ah, the twenties. A decade marked by self-discovery, career building, and... relentless questions about your marital status. If you're in your twenties and single, you've probably faced the inquisitive barrage from well-meaning relatives, and nosy neighbours who somehow feels invested in your love life. Welcome to the marriage market, where your relationship status is everyone’s business, and your personal timeline is apparently a communal project. It starts innocently enough. One day, you're basking in the freedom of young adulthood, enjoying a brunch with friends, and the next, one of the distant Aunts is cornering you at a family gathering with a pointed "So, when are you getting married?" It's as if an invisible alarm clock, audible only to those over 50, starts blaring when you hit 23. And heaven forbid you attend a wedding; the whispers and nudges intensify, each bouquet tossing a stark reminder that you're still on the sidelines.

        
                    

                    The inquiries come in various forms. There's the curious, "Are you seeing anyone special?" The subtly judgmental, "You're not getting any younger." And my personal favourite, the concerned, "Don't you want to settle down?" It’s as if being single is an affliction rather than a choice, and the cure is a wedding band. But they don't realize that today's twenty-somethings are redefining what it means to be ready for marriage, focusing on personal growth, stability, and finding a partner who truly complements their journey.

                    Amid these societal expectations, feeling pressured or even a bit alienated is easy. Yet, there's a certain freedom in embracing your own timeline. Your twenties are a prime time for exploration, both personally and professionally. Why rush into a lifelong commitment before genuinely understanding who you are and what you want from life? The right relationship will come not from societal pressure but from a genuine connection when both parties are ready.


                So, to all my fellow singles navigating the marriage market in your twenties, embrace the questions with a smile, deflect with humour, and remember that your path is uniquely yours. Marriage is not a race, and there's no deadline for finding your person. Until then, enjoy the ride, relish your independence, and keep brunching without a care. After all, there's more to life than the aisle—there's the entire journey leading up to it.




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