Connected; just to get Disconnected...

         

        Humans, at our core, are wired for connection. It’s literally our default setting. From the moment we’re born, we reach out for touch, for warmth, for someone who looks back and says, I see you. Our lives become a collage of these tiny human links: conversations, shared meals, cultural rituals, inside jokes, chaotic group chats, late-night calls, and the quiet comfort of knowing someone is simply there. No matter how “independent” we pretend to be, nobody truly wants to live in complete isolation. We crave connection the way plants crave sunlight.

        However, the strange thing is that, despite yearning for connection, we’re living in a time when it feels harder than ever to maintain one. People we speak to every day can fade into strangers without warning. Someone who once felt like a permanent fixture suddenly becomes an occasional notification. Relationships,  friendships, situationships, all of it, feel more fragile than they used to. As much as humans want connection, we’re equally unpredictable. And unpredictability is the quickest way to turn something meaningful into something confusing.

        Building a connection from scratch isn’t a casual activity; it’s emotional labour. It takes energy, consistency, patience, and the hardest part: presence. So many connections die not because people stop caring, but because they stop showing up. We lose track of the basics. A bond isn’t built on fireworks; it’s built on choosing someone in the mundane moments. But that “choosing” is exactly what many people struggle with. Everyone’s tired. Everyone’s cautious. Everyone’s halfway in, halfway out, waiting to see if the other person will make the first real step.

        And then there’s the infamous “talking stage,” the place where most connections go to die. People romanticize meeting their soulmate, but barely talk about sustaining the bond after the initial spark. It’s easy to be charming in the beginning, easy to be available when everything’s fresh and exciting. But when life gets real, when attention spans shrink, when someone else feels new and shiny, that’s when the connection gets tested. Most people get worn down. And if even one person decides to step back, the entire bond feels the shockwave.

        Because of this, many people stop wanting new friends or relationships altogether. Not out of bitterness, just exhaustion. They stick to the people they already trust because building something new feels like a risk. The wrong connection can derail your day, your week, your mood, your mental health. And then there are people who connect only for convenience, to escape stress, to feel entertained, to fill a temporary emotional gap. Those connections are always the first to collapse, because they were never built on intention in the first place.

        Still, connection remains one of the most profound and meaningful aspects of being human. Even when it disappoints us, even when it confuses us, even when it teaches us lessons, we didn’t ask for. Maybe the real shift we need is this: not searching for someone who magically feels like a soulmate but choosing people who show up with honesty and effort. Being connected isn’t about intensity,it’s about consistency. And as unpredictable as humans are, the right connections don’t drain you or make you question your worth. They make you feel anchored. Seen. Safe. And those are the connections worth holding onto.